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    12 Years of Intimate Photos of Same Man - Taken by His Partner

    Jacob Anderson-Minshall
    | 08/29/22

    12 Years of Intimate Photos of Same Man - Taken by His Partner

    Nude white gay man Nick

    What makes a life? Sure our lives — and relationships — may be punctuated by extraordinary experiences, but there hundreds of  thousands more quiet and ordinary moments in between. And that is where photographer Joe Schmelzer does his best work. Fellow artist Cliff Benjamin has noted Schmelzer’s “generic” settings that “could be anyone’s vacation — but are something more.” And indeed his images are “lush meditations on the wonder of ordinary life.”  In his collection, Life With Nick, Schmelzer shares ten years of images capturing intimate moments with his partner, and muse.

    Here Schmelzer shares 25 of those photos and tells us more about his work and life with Nick Berry.

    Follow the couple at @treasurbite & @joeschmelzer and @nicktberry. See more of Schmelzer's work at joeschmelzer.com

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in union jack swim brief

    Your bio says that you might have taken an entirely different career path had it not been for Muhammad Ali. Can you tell our readers the story behind that?

    Well my father had a collection of Yousuf Karsh portrait photographs — of many different people — all over the house. Somehow Muhammad Ali ended up hanging in my bedroom. So, I wouldn’t say that it was all about Muhammad for me, but the idea of a career making photographs was entered early into my mind.

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick taking off his shirt near waterfall

    Tell us about finding the extraordinary in mundane moments. Is that something that other people can cultivate? It feels like a great mindset to traveling as well.

    I think this is something that everyone can work on for sure. There is also something “beautiful” around you. I think process is to find a way to bring that out of the “small moments” and really try to appreciate and admire every moment. I think many people long for the “perfect or most magical”— when maybe that moment is actually right in front of them already. I always hear things like “How do I take the perfect sunset pic?” or things like that. My answer always seems to be “You don’t” — some moments are meant to actually be experienced, and not photographed. I think these experiences are what perhaps can make you take better photographs in the future. My photographs then become a combination of maybe some “magical” moments (although they all are magical to me) — and these “quieter” moments — these moments are what make up the bulk of your life. It is then a process both internally and with a camera to find the solution to telling these stories of the “everyday moments.”

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in a foaming bath

    You’ve been with Nick for over a decade, how many images did you have to sort through to narrow down what to put in the book?

    Well, I am still trying to find the best way to deal with the book situation. I have been in some talks, but I currently don’t have a publisher, or have decided to self—publish (hint, hint, anyone interest?). But, yes, the process of choosing those images will prove to be very difficult. As you mentioned, it has been over a decade, I have thousands and thousands of images. Definitely some favorites, and certainly some that have never been seen before. The process of going back and looking at images that I may have missed before, or had a different idea in the past, but now an old image speaks to me. I think my favorite part, is seeing the relationship over time, and remembering all the things that were happening at certain situations and travels. And since this project is ongoing and continually growing, there will always be choices to make.

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick shirtless holding a tray of thick bacon

    Tell me about bacon. I’m curious about it as subject matter. Do you take pictures of bacon in other areas or just at home? Do you take bacon out to Palm Springs and see if it will fry on the street?

    Ha. Well, there is no specific fascination with bacon, other than it is delicious. The original “Nick with Bacon” was taken many years ago, something like 2012. The photo was never planned, we honestly were making breakfast at our friends house in Palm Springs. I just happened to take a picture, which for some reason has become rather iconic of my work. All sorts of stories seem to have been made up about the situation and photo. Again, I never like to give away too much. So, therefore if the viewer has a wild imagination, and my photo created some story in their mind, then I guess I did my job well.

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick pulls down his swim briefs showing his butt

    Can you explain how your gallery exhibitions are puzzle-like, autobiographical narratives?

    Well, that is an interesting question. I guess I would say, that I never like to give away too much. I don’t like to beat viewers over the head with the obvious. I think I like to leave something for the viewer to figure out. I often call them “nonlinear” narratives. There isn’t a specific story, but when presented all together — there is definitely information to de-code from them.

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick shirtless looking over the ocean

    Is photographing while traveling a different experience for you than while at home?

    Well, I do take many photographs at home as well. As you can see in the work for sure. But, there is something different for sure. At home, I am always taking photographs for my “work” as well. But while travelling (mostly for vacation) my focus is definitely shifted. And again, my connection to Nick is different, as much of the baggage of “everyday work life” is not weighing us down. I don’t plan these photographs. Sometimes lots of pictures are taken, and sometimes the experience is more important than the photograph. Nothing is forced, which is what I feel keep the images as authentic as they can be. For me, they are almost a visual diary. I remember everything about the moments we made them and the experience we were having.

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in shorts holding on to a branch overhead

    What draws you back to Hawaii repeatedly?

    I have always loved Hawaii, and many years ago I took Nick for the first time. He fell in love as well. Over the last decade, we have pretty much gone over and over, and everytime for longer and longer. We have settled on an area of the North Shore of O’ahu, that is our absolute favorite, and also have been actively searching for a second home there (maybe eventually full-time). I guess I would just call it our “happy place.”

    We have been working the grind of the “industry” in Los Angeles for many, many years. I guess personally I always seem to run on a stress level of about 14, lol. But, in Hawaii, there is an energy that I cannot explain, if you let it in. Somehow, we have connected with that energy. The island has taught me what the word “relax” means. It has slowed me down. It has taught me to appreciate even more the “everyday moments.” And, through that I believe it has brought Nick and I closer together. It is hard to put into words the feeling, but all I do know is that I love that feeling. (plus we have taken some epic photos there as well)

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick leaning over a deck near woods

    Are there other locations that you frequent that are featured in the book?

    I think the bulk of the images are either from Los Angeles, or Hawaii. But there are many other places we have gone that make appearances. Anything from Palm Springs to Bora Bora to Tennessee.

    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in shorts looking over rocks
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick pulls his shirt over his face on a bridge
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in sandy water
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in formal wear
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in underwear leaning against a wall
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in a vacation rental
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick's abdomen
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick naked in the kitchen
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in Hawaii looking through a round window
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in tie, jacket and hat in California fog
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in T-shirt and ball cap
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick walking up stairs with his jeans pulled down to reveal his butt
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick in a bath
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick lying naked on a bed on vacation
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick naked looks out the window
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick drying his face on towel
    Life With Nick by Joe Schmelzer Nick photographed under water pulling down his swim trunks

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