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Be My Valentine: V-Day or D-day?

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It's easy to knock Valentine's Day, especially when you're single or away from your partner (or partners). Heck, it's pretty easy to knock even if you are happily together.

"It's an artificial holiday, created by those corporate commandeers who stole Cupid and romance to enforce heterosexual, gender-'correct' pairings!"

I think that about condenses some of the more virulent criticisms I've heard (but feel free to add some in the comments below).

But here's the thing. If something like Valentine's Day can be loaded with saccharine, heteronormative ammunition, then I like to think it can be re-loaded, too. Why not?

We may have come a long way since queer love was Wilde's "love that dare not speak it's name," but we have quite a ways to go and, if that flurry of amendments banning gay marriage is any indication, we are always threatened by sliding backwards.

So lock and load and fire back. Celebrate a queer V-Day with a partner (or two). Speaking the name of queer love -- to a lover, a friend, or out loud to no one in particular -- is worth it, I think, just in case someone is listening who need to hear it.

Check out some of our couples' travel guides for some great gay ways to celebrate a Valentine's Day!

Couples: Introduction || Couples: Carribbean || Couples: Europe || Couples: US East || Couples: US West

Photo: Getty Images

It's easy to knock Valentine's Day, especially when you're single or away from your partner (or partners). Heck, it's pretty easy to knock even if you are happily together.

"It's an artificial holiday, created by those corporate commandeers who stole Cupid and romance to enforce heterosexual, gender-'correct' pairings!"

I think that about condenses some of the more virulent criticisms I've heard (but feel free to add some in the comments below).

But here's the thing. If something like Valentine's Day can be loaded with saccharine, heteronormative ammunition, then I like to think it can be re-loaded, too. Why not?

We may have come a long way since queer love was Wilde's "love that dare not speak it's name," but we have quite a ways to go and, if that flurry of amendments banning gay marriage is any indication, we are always threatened by sliding backwards.

So lock and load and fire back. Celebrate a queer V-Day with a partner (or two). Speaking the name of queer love -- to a lover, a friend, or out loud to no one in particular -- is worth it, I think, just in case someone is listening who need to hear it.

Check out some of our couples' travel guides for some great gay ways to celebrate a Valentine's Day!

Couples: IntroductionCouples: CarribbeanCouples: EuropeCouples: US EastCouples: US West

Photo: Getty Images

It's easy to knock Valentine's Day, especially when you're single or away from your partner (or partners). Heck, it's pretty easy to knock even if you are happily together.

"It's an artificial holiday, created by those corporate commandeers who stole Cupid and romance to enforce heterosexual, gender-'correct' pairings!"

I think that about condenses some of the more virulent criticisms I've heard (but feel free to add some in the comments below).

But here's the thing. If something like Valentine's Day can be loaded with saccharine, heteronormative ammunition, then I like to think it can be re-loaded, too. Why not?

We may have come a long way since queer love was Wilde's "love that dare not speak it's name," but we have quite a ways to go and, if that flurry of amendments banning gay marriage is any indication, we are always threatened by sliding backwards.

So lock and load and fire back. Celebrate a queer V-Day with a partner (or two). Speaking the name of queer love -- to a lover, a friend, or out loud to no one in particular -- is worth it, I think, just in case someone is listening who need to hear it.

Check out some of our couples' travel guides for some great gay ways to celebrate a Valentine's Day!

Couples: IntroductionCouples: CarribbeanCouples: EuropeCouples: US EastCouples: US West

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